The Grandma Effect: How Grandmothers Are Essential to the Survival of the Human Race

The Grandma Effect: How Grandmothers Are Essential to the Survival of the Human Race

September 13 is National Grandparents Day! This year it takes on particular significance as we find ourselves challenged with finding new ways to connect to this beloved generation. Many grandparents across the world have made acquaintance with new technology that allows them to interact with their children and grandchildren without risking their health. It’s no small accomplishment for people who learned how the world works in the days before home computers and the Internet.

It goes without saying that grandparents have a special role in our lives — especially our grandmothers. Since the dawn of time, they’ve been actively involved in raising their grandchildren. Those of us who have been lucky enough to know our grandparents often have very fond memories of them.

But according to anthropologist Kristen Hawkes, the role of grandmothers may be more essential than we realized.

The grandmother hypothesis

Kristen Hawkes, a researcher at the University of Utah, set out to solve an evolutionary mystery: why do women live past menopause?

The lifespans of most other living things usually don’t extend very far past their reproductive years. Men’s fertility decreases after the age of 45, but technically they can still father children quite late in life. Charlie Chaplin and Mick Jagger both became fathers at the age of 73. Women, however, lose their ability to bear children around the age of 50 or 60. Dr. Hawkes wanted to know: what did our species gain, from an evolutionary perspective, from having so many older women who could easily live 30, 40, even 50 years past the point at which they were no longer fertile?

As part of her research, Dr. Hawkes traveled to Tanzania to observe the lives of the native Hadza people. The Hadza lead a traditional hunter-gatherer lifestyle, much like our ancestors from thousands of years ago. Dr. Hawkes noticed that the health of young Hadza children was correlated with their mothers’ foraging efforts — except when the mother was nursing an infant. In that case, the health of the child correlated not with its mother’s foraging success, but with its grandmother’s foraging success. In other words, it was the grandmother’s efforts to assist in feeding and tending to the older siblings of a young baby that ensured the health of the family as a whole.

Dr. Hawkes observed a similar phenomenon in other hunter-gatherer tribes, and developed what she called the “grandmother hypothesis”: the theory that grandmothers are essential to the survival of the species because they help make it possible for mothers to care for more children who are born at relatively short intervals. Grandmothers who lived longer were able to help their daughters raise more children, and therefore, through natural selection, females who lived past menopause became very common among humans.

In October 2012, Dr. Hawkes published a fascinating study together with her colleagues Peter Kim and James Coxworth that supports her theory using a mathematical model. The researchers applied the concept of menopause and grandmothers to the social structure of a hypothetical species of chimpanzees, and found that, within the computer simulation, the grandmother effect alone doubled the lifespan of the species within less than 60,000 years.

From berries in the forest to ice cream at the playground

But does this effect still apply to a more modern lifestyle? Other researchers have explored this question. In 2008, Rebecca Sear and Ruth Mace, anthropologists from London, published a review of 45 studies examining the role of kin on child survival, and it showed that most studies examining the role of contemporary grandmothers do indicate that they have a positive influence on the longevity of their grandchildren.

For many people who have been blessed with a grandmother in their lives, these findings are not surprising. Parenting young children is utterly exhausting, especially caring for several children who are still young and very dependent. Dr. Sear and Dr. Mace state at the beginning of their review that “the extended period of childhood dependency and short interbirth intervals mean that human mothers have to care for several dependent children simultaneously. Most evolutionary anthropologists now agree that this is too much of an energetic burden for mothers to manage alone and that they must enlist help from other relatives to share the costs of raising children.”

We may not need our grandmothers to go find berries in the forest for our toddlers, but when Grandma steps in to take the toddler out for ice cream at the playground so his mom and the new baby can grab a nap — that’s a lifesaver in the modern age. In more traditional societies where women tend to have more children at shorter intervals, it is very common to find that these young mothers live near their own mothers, and rely on their assistance on a regular basis.

A different bond

The relationship between a grandmother and a grandchild is usually quite different from that between mother and child: less strained, more straightforward, and full of comfort and simple love. Dr. Hawkes is quoted in the Smithsonian as saying that grandmothers may have contributed to the larger brains and social traits unique to humans. “If you are a chimpanzee, gorilla, or orangutan baby, you mom is thinking about nothing but you,” she says. “But if you are a human baby, your mom has other kids she is worrying about, and that means now there is selection on you — which was not on any other apes — to much more actively engage her: ‘Mom! Pay attention to me!’… Grandmothering gave us the kind of upbringing that made us more dependent on each other socially and prone to engage each other’s attention.”

It’s important to note that the grandmother hypothesis is not definitive, and there are scholars who argue against it. Some believe that human females live past their reproductive years not for the benefit of their grandchildren, but for that of their own children, since human young still require active involvement for many years compared to other species. They call that theory “the mother hypothesis.” Still, the mathematical model published by Dr. Hawkes and her colleagues in October 2012 lends strong support to the grandmother hypothesis.

So in honor of National Grandparents Day, celebrated on September 13 — here’s to our grandmothers, literal saviors of our species!

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  • Ally Ladak

    September 13, 2020

    Happy Grandparents Day today September 13,2020 to all families ..Ally Ladak

  • JoAnn Rogahn

    September 13, 2020

    Prayers for Chris’s family

  • Lori Smith

    September 13, 2020

    My grandma left an indelible mark on my life. I knew at the age of 13 that my first daughter would be named after her- and that is what I did to honor her. I had a son and then a daughter (and then 6 more kids). My daughter was just 2 1/2 when my grandma passed away of cancer. I was beyond heartbroken. My grandma was not just my grandma, but also my mentor, teacher, and hero. She was just a wise and wonderful person. She’s been gone 40 years and I still miss her, though I know she is in heaven.
    I am now grandma to many and I try to be a teacher and mentor to my grandchildren. I have 29 grandchildren (and counting) and soon to be 8 great grandchildren (and counting). Grandparents have the potential to impact their children and grandchildren in so many positive ways. God blessed us with grandparents and the ability to be grandparents as we are to pass on a wonderful legacy of God and family.

  • Deborah A Berg

    September 14, 2020

    I was very very lucky to spend time with my dad’s parent’s and my mom’s dad, but starting a family history, my grandmother, gave me all she had about her family, including her grandfather and grandmother, and my dad’s aunt, gave me their family history all before they were all gone, and now I am finding cousin’s that I did not know existed! Now during this virus, more family are doing their family history and we are filling in the blanks that we were not able to get answers, now we are getting those answers from cousin’s who share the same family! I am very grateful to meet cousin’s and share with them information that I and they were looking for years! Hopefully this next year when this virus is being taken care of by vaccines we “cousin’s” hope to meet in person, not just on our computers! For a very special family reunion! I and them are looking forward for that! Sincerely, Deborah Alice (Briggs) Berg

  • Leonie Forsyth

    September 14, 2020

    I had no input from any of my grandparents as they had died before or just as I came along.
    As a grandparent myself now I was determined to put all I could into my grandsons. Both mum & dad worked. I said I would not be a baby sitter but I would fill in when the need arrived. I wanted to pass on my love and other things not be the disciplinarian. So a nanny was hired, with my vetting. I had many hours with my boys, reading, writing, playing with boxes, building castles, playing with a ball, going to the park, picnicking, attending important school functions and just cuddling and loving. Today they are both adults, very attached to their Mumma and Pa. As we age they are very attentive to us and we have many dinners together as a family with their parents and their girlfriends. Our journey as grandparents has been most rewarding and I would not do it any differently.

  • Lorraine Lewis

    September 14, 2020

    I was very lucky to know both my grandmothers they played an important part in my growing up. My fathers mother died when she was 93 so I had her in my life for a long time. I have two grandsons and I hope they will remember me with the same affection.

  • Audrey Thorson

    September 14, 2020

    My maternal grandmother and I were like two peas in a pod. She has been gone for many years but I still miss her.

  • Chandler L. Klotz Jr.

    September 14, 2020

    I am already a member.

  • Peggy Lutton

    September 14, 2020

    Thank you Chris, for your planning of the events. May you rest in peace.

  • Helen touboulic

    September 15, 2020

    Still trying to find great grand mother born in 1856 in Wales married a John Collins born around 1856 in cork Eire.Ger name was Ann Hughes


    September 16, 2020

    Grandmothers were the ladies who showed us love and at times kept a watchful eye on me and my brothers after my Father passed and life was stressed for my mother and brothers. they taught us family history and cooked the best food .Canned the best pickles , jam ,and vegetables ! sewed our clothes . They were the glue in a lot of the days growing into adults !

  • David

    September 17, 2020

    Both of my grandmothers were adored by me and all of the other 20 + grandchildren they both had .All our faces light up whenever we talk about her.