I Finally Found My Dad, and I Couldn’t Be Happier

I Finally Found My Dad, and I Couldn’t Be Happier

MyHeritage user Inez Tjarda Engelbosch of Belgium never felt like she belonged. When the man who raised her finally admitted that he wasn’t her biological father, she decided to take a MyHeritage DNA test to see what she could learn about her birth father’s identity… and then, a DNA match arrived in her inbox with an estimated relationship of “father.” This is her story:

“Hi, I’m your dad.”

That was the first thing he said to me, on our first video call. 

I started to cry.  

I looked at the man on the screen. It was like looking at myself in the mirror. Same face, same curly hair, same nose. I felt that I knew him even though it was the first time we had ever spoken. I had finally found my dad, and I can’t be happier.  

My name is Yves, but this is a new name I adopted later in life. My given name is Tjarda, and I live in Belgium. Throughout my childhood, I wondered why my mother chose to give me this name. Was it a punishment? All my family members had European names. They all looked European, too. Everyone except me.

I don’t look Belgian, and people used to ask me where I was from. One time I went to a nightclub and they refused to believe that I’m Belgian. I suffered a lot in my childhood. My mother treated me like I was a problem. I never felt loved. 

For years I had questions about my identity. I had a feeling that the man who raised me was not my biological father. One time, when my mother was hospitalized, I decided to ask her: “Is he my real father?”

“Yes,” she answered. “He is your father.” 

So I asked my father about it. “To be honest,” he said, “I’m 80% sure you are not my daughter.”

When he said those words, I felt that I couldn’t breathe.  

So I decided to take a DNA test. I went to the MyHeritage website and ordered a kit. When the results arrived, I immediately checked my ethnicity background: 40% North African. What? How is that even possible? It was a total shock. I got a DNA match with a distant cousin, so I sent her a message but she didn’t respond. I couldn’t do anything to get her to reply, so I decided to let it go. 

3 years have passed since then. My parents refused to tell me the truth — it was a waste of time to try to persuade them otherwise. A month and a half ago, I decided to stop searching and stop thinking about it.

That was when it happened. 

My husband got an email from MyHeritage: “Yves, you’ve got a match.” He checked the account and told me to come over. “You’ve got to see this,” he said. I looked at his screen and there it was:


That evening I had a night shift at work, and I remember that it was a nightmare. I couldn’t think of anything else but this amazing discovery, after all those years that I’d been searching and praying for answers. 

I tried, unsuccessfully, to find him on Facebook. I went to bed but couldn’t sleep. In the morning I saw that a man with a weird name sent me a message on Messenger.

This man was looking for Yves Tjarda (my name on MyHeritage) but found Yves Innes (my name on Facebook). He looked at my photos and saw a resemblance, so he decided to reach out. “Are you using MyHeritage?” he wrote. “Did you take a DNA test?”

I saw the message and knew it was him. So I immediately called him on video. We looked at each other for a few seconds.

“Hi, I’m your dad,” he said.

He hadn’t even known that I existed. He had a successful restaurant, and my mother had gone there one night to have dinner. They had a one-night romance.  When I told him about her, he didn’t even remember her — he said that he saw a lot of women those days.

He was so sad to hear that I suffered all my childhood. “I wish I knew,” he said. “I would have come and taken you!” He didn’t need convincing that I’m his daughter, and not just because of the DNA match: we really look alike. He says that I look exactly like his eldest daughter. 

All my life, I had only one brother, and I always wanted a sister. Now I have 4 more brothers and 4 sisters! I’m so happy and thankful for that. He told me that he is happy too and thankful for the opportunity to find me. He told my kids to call him “Grandfather.”

Since we found each other, my father and I have been talking every day, laughing at each other’s jokes, sharing stories. He lives in Brussels, one hour away from me, and he came to visit me not long ago so we could meet for the first time. It was complicated: he is 75 years old, high risk for COVID, so I couldn’t hug him and needed to keep a distance as per the restrictions. He is also a Muslim, and because of Ramadan, I couldn’t even offer him a drink!


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  • BP

    Bella Pace Conner

    September 1, 2021

    WOW! No words! Just tears…. wow… <3 <3 <3 <3 (I hope those show up as hearts)

  • EP

    Elaine Plummer

    September 1, 2021

    I love these happy stories. I’m hoping the same thing for me as well . Trying to find a close family member by my paternal side. Not sure it will ever happen.

  • M


    September 2, 2021

    That’s an amazing story. So happy for you finally learning about your biological father and other siblings. Hope the rest of your life is a wonderful one, sounds like it will be.

  • LN

    Lorraine Norton

    September 2, 2021

    Beautiful. I am currently looking into my DNA and finding out who my real parents are slowly. Thank you for sharing.

  • T


    September 2, 2021

    Oh my gosh!!! I love this story! I too have had a huge change in my life, I will do my best to share my story as well one day soon. I’m thrilled for you Yves!!! And your Father! Thanks so much for sharing your story! Loved it!

  • LS

    Linda Saunders

    September 3, 2021

    Amazing ! I am tying so hard to find the final resting place for my maternal grandfather! Not easy as he came from NZ and used many aliases

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    Pamela Hawthorne

    September 5, 2021

    Wonderful story. Age 5, i knew my daddy was not my father. Knew his name but never looked until several yrs ago. Knew he had died but found i had 2 sisters and a brother to go along with 5 sisters I grew up with. Dug around and found names on F.A.G., contacted a niece and got an address for a nephew and wrote him. Gave him my phone # so he called and was very suspicious. I sent him my baby picture while we were on the phone and computer. He opened the link and gasped. I heard him and he said…omg, you look just like my grandfather. That convinced him I was whom I said I was. I answered his questions correctly. Since then, I spoke to my surviving sister, who died 3 yrs ago and I showed up at her memorial svc, introduced myself and why I was there. My niece said, another niece’s brother confirmed it, so they accepted me. I’m glad she found her father. However, I would NOT trade my daddy for the man who was my birth father.

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    Karen Faye Cox

    September 6, 2021

    Thanks for sharing this wonderful story. I am so happy for you. I’ve been lucky enough to know all my family tree and a lot of my relatives. I am America and I live in the State of Utah.

  • RC

    Renee Crossley

    October 3, 2021

    I’m hopeful my test results will find the missing half of my family. I’ve never met. To know names and hopefully make contact. Would be the biggest blessing

  • J


    October 9, 2021

    My mother raised me with some pretty nasty ideas of who my father was, though all I have are her stories and half a name. I’m terrified of what my DNA results will show. My husband is hopeful that I get a happy reunion with my father and potential siblings, I’m not convinced. My mother did a lot of damage and I just feel like finding them would either ruin their lives or lead to an extremely hurtful rejection by them. At this point, I don’t even feel like I deserve to have answers anymore.